• Omegamint [comrade/them, doe/deer]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    I literally did both? I still hold records at my school but also would spend all of my free time at home in a computer. Sports by itself is not going to change what you do in your free time at home

      • blame [they/them]@hexbear.net
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        2 months ago

        You can change things you dont like about your life as an adult. Not everything of course we still have to pay rent and eat and shit (on the landlords doorstep). But if you were a weird teenager you dont have to be a weird adult. You can go to the gym and therapy and get a girlfriend or a boyfriend or a gundam.

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            2 months ago

            As someone who fits in but used to be an outcast, I can assure you, fitting in isn’t about having mainstream hobbies, but proactively talking to people.

            I still find going up to people and talking to them to be kind of scary, so the method I used was to join a college association I was interested in.

            As for your hobbies, there is nothing wrong with having obscure hobbies, in fact, it makes for a great conversation topic. And unless your hobby is really out there, you could probably find a group that enjoys your hobby.

            Of course, this assumes you have access to such spaces, which is not true for everyone.