BIL is in hospital so the focus and sympathies are with him. She doesn’t want to miss out on anything so she becomes the Martyr. Look at me/us. Now feel sorry for me because my son is sick.
I think it’s more out of boredom (even though martyrs are ALWAYS busy). The manipulation is just a bonus.
agree
thing is she denies it was her choice
Of course. That’s what a Martyr does. I have to. Poor me.
I know I grumble, everyone I know does
but we aren’t doing it for sympathy and none of us say poor me
it’s a coping mechanism to grumble
whereas a martyr is manipulating
Is that right?
Kind of.
BIL is in hospital so the focus and sympathies are with him. She doesn’t want to miss out on anything so she becomes the Martyr. Look at me/us. Now feel sorry for me because my son is sick.
I think it’s more out of boredom (even though martyrs are ALWAYS busy). The manipulation is just a bonus.
so it’s opportunistic? It’s how she handles situations she is presented with.
I think I’m starting to better understand how narcissistic think and behave
Yeah. Narcissistic, manipulative, opportunistic people will always bring it back to themselves.