• Allonzee@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1522·
    3 months ago

    I curse with abandon in front of my kid, not at him, just in conversation. Expletives are part of language, and are just more words for the toolbox, useful in adding a little spice or emphasis to a point.

    If a teacher ever contacts me to say they used a vulgar word, my first question that will inform my response, if any, will be "how did they use it, specifically?"

    I see our, the US’s, childish aversion to curse words as part of its childish puritanical roots based in wilfill ignorance. Guns all day, but ahhhhh dirty words! Ahhhhh boobies! Our response to such things are what’s embarrassing.

    If you want me to take anyone’s censorship of anything seriously in this cesspool, start by advocating censoring glorification of “muh 2A,” and maybe I’ll take you seriously.

    • Bertuccio@lemmy.worldEnglish
      411·
      3 months ago

      Also the notion that children aren’t allowed to do certain things that adults frequently do in front of them somehow magically doesn’t apply to curse words.

      Kids can’t smoke, drink, drive cars, change light bulbs, use the stove and oven… But no one ever says adults aren’t allowed to cook in front of the kids because kids might get the wrong idea. They tell the kids not to use the stove and respond appropriately if the kids do anyway.

      • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.worldEnglish
        111·
        3 months ago

        Respond appropriately being teach the kid to cook. I was cooking breakfast and dinner at least once a week by the age of 6-7. I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated that has absolutely no clue how to cook. So much wasted money…

        • intensely_human@lemm.eeEnglish
          163·
          3 months ago

          First time I understand, but next time you need to inquire with the escort service about the things that are important to you.

          • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.worldEnglish
            8·
            3 months ago

            I was referring to their money. I frequently found this out in the “getting to know the financial side of you,” phase of getting serious.

    • cm0002@lemmy.worldEnglish
      25·
      3 months ago

      Exactly, I refuse to run around censoring shit, which is ultimately pointless the day they enter school anyways.

      Instead I’ll frame and explain things and instruct on the proper use (if applicable) when they come up, ya know being a parent lol. Censoring just teaches them to hide newly acquired knowledge if they feel my only response is going to be banning it/punishment IMO.

      The only thing I might actually censor is like the worst of the worst…on a limited age based, case by case basis. I’m probably not going to let the 5 year old watch South Park for example, but if the 11 year old catches an episode or 2, meh.

    • Linnce@lemmy.worldEnglish
      10·
      3 months ago

      I wish my parents did this. I have such a mental block on cursing that I can’t bring myself to say it out loud, even though I’m thinking about it and it’s the perfect choice of words for the moment. I also feel socially left out by people around me because of that, as in they can be themselves and I have to restrain myself.

      Funny enough this is only in my native language. Since I grew up watching YouTube videos from english speaking people that cursed a lot, that feels very comfortable and natural.

      The other day I was rewatching some adventure time on hbo max and saw they were censoring the word idiot. I’m pretty sure they were censoring a bunch of other cartoons that weren’t censored back in the day. That pissed me off so much, they are just limiting our vocabulary more and more for words that have a somewhat negative connotation.

      • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
        3·
        3 months ago

        the native language thing is so wild, i have the same but for sexual language. dirty talk in swedish just makes me laugh and cringe in equal amounts, but it works perfectly fine in english.

  • Kaavi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    69·
    3 months ago

    Your son already knew.

    When my daughter was 4 I asked her to say all the bad words she knew. She started with the not so bad ones and ended with all the worst ones.

    I guess the other kids in her kindergarten had older siblings, so she knew them all already. But most importantly, she also knew when to use them and when not to use them. :)

  • Etterra@lemmy.worldEnglish
    202·
    3 months ago

    I’m all for letting kids swear, but only if they do so correctly in a sentence and in the correct context. There’s no reason it should be a big fucking deal.

    • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      4·
      3 months ago

      i’m so glad this is the norm in most of the nordics, kids swearing is no different than them shouting “TURD” at random, they’re learning how words work.

      Hiding words from them is completely fucking pointless and just results in issues, it’s so much easier to simply correct their usage of words and teaching by example.

    • chetradley@lemmy.worldEnglish
      41·
      3 months ago

      You’ve clearly never met a 2 year old. About a month ago I accidentally let a “fuck” slip out of frustration, and just the other day he was walking up the stairs gleefully spouting “fuck, fuck, fuck” at every step.