I just realised that “like it’s your first time” has a positive connotation I guess, but like… motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can’t imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.

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    lmao, i was such a walking pile of eggy emotional issues, restrictive parents, and crying that there was a solid 0% chance i’d ever get laid as a teenager. i still don’t feel like i “dodged a bullet” though

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      I mean I legit unironically think it’s better to miss out during your teens, feels less good if you also miss out in your 20s bocchi-cry

      I haven’t been single since I was 14 though and all I got was a fucking boatload of trauma that’s taken twelve years and counting to work through normal

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      Picking up knowledge to use later is what I’d recommend

      Reading some books on trans sex and such. FTW is a good start too.

      It’s far better when you know what your doing and get good with just touch and how to play with sensation.

      Those are things you dont get taught. You can teach yourself tho.