I’m not bothered by it at all, and I’m not at all curious about what they’re saying about me. I suppose I just trust that if someone has something to say to me, they will. But I’m coming to realize that is somewhat unusual so I am curious about what you experience if you learn about people talking about you?
I only care about what my very close friends think about me, and as you said, if they have something to say they will say it to me.
Everyone else can think and say whatever they want, I’m indifferent to it.