• Vodulas [they/them]@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Just FYI, “transgenderism” is a term right wingers use to try and say being trans is an ideology and not just people trying to exist. It is not a term we use to describe ourselves, and you sound like you are trying to support trans folks, so probably best to avoid it.

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      1 year ago

      Thanks! What word would best fit in this context?

      ETA: I’ve just changed it to “gender identity” - seems appropriate to cover the other topics being attacked also.

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        1 year ago

        That totally works. Another FYI, and I don’t think it applies in this case since there is a comment thread that shows what happened, but typically you want to leave the mistake visible in some way (like using a strikethough on the original). This helps potentially prevent marginalized folks from having to repeat their advice by allowing others to see the issue.

        Again, I don’t think it is necessary in this case, but just wanted to give you a heads up.

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          1 year ago

          That’s a fair point. I will admit it comes across a little nitpicky, which is something to be wary of if you’re building bridges with someone new to allyship. This is the point where some people will dig their heels in due to embarrassment.

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            1 year ago

            Totally. People naturally get defensive when told they didn’t do something right. That why I was trying to make it abundantly clear it was not necessary in this instance, but might be for other things. It also seemed like you were willing to put in effort after you took my first comment super well, so that was an indicator I could probably push a little more. It’s not something I would have mentioned to someone that was more defensive initially