deleted post because of personal info, but thank you to everyone who responded and gave advice, it means a lot

  • AlicePraxis [any]@hexbear.netOP
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    5 months ago

    thanks for taking the time to write all this out, I very much appreciate you for caring and it’s all good advice

    community college is something I definitely plan to do - specifically IRL classes because I need to regularly be around people who are not my immediate family members. I love learning but most of the learning I’ve done in the past decade has been solitary. this might be a good next step because I genuinely want to do it

    I actually was lifting weights for a while until late last year when I stopped because of a stupid health problem which is still kinda recurring but I think I can get back to it, might have to start slow and focus mostly on form and proper breathing techniques. cardio for sure, my weight is good but my stamina is shit and I could use those endorphins

    therapy - that’s the most difficult truth here but you’re right

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      5 months ago

      I have read every single comment in this thread and this guy definitely makes the most sense. Therapy should be the highest priority, everything else will follow.

    • FungiDebord [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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      5 months ago

      sure thing. people love to help people who are trying to help themselves.

      therapy - that’s the most difficult truth here but you’re right

      yes. honestly, this should be the next step. there are many things that can go wrong with the community college classes – classes won’t start for a while: you might get ill, your car may break down, the class may be cancelled, it may be too expensive, etc etc. it feels nice to intend to start taking classes, as this gives you a plan and a horizon, but, in the meantime, it would behoove you to start with a therapist. i would make it a goal for this week to find one (i assume if you’re in the states you qualify for medicaid, which will cover costs) and set up an intake appointment for next week. this could be agonizing, but after you set up the appointment, you will feel a rush of relief.

      again, i’ve been in similar shoes; feel free to contact to me if that would be helpful.