It’s NOT because I’m fucking “lazy” though, it’s a whole bunch of things.
Obviously there is executive dysfunction involved, like being fired back in mid April obliterated the life schedule I’ve had since I was 18, fuck I worked that place for a long time. Just being dumped back at home with nothing to reliably get up for, no occupation to put effort into, is disturbing and frankly it’s alarming that I have any kind of consistent sleep schedule at all. Say “thank you wifey” to my wife for keeping me from becoming a completely unhinged ‘neet’.
So I haven’t even updated my resume or applied for jobs, for a ton of reasons. Partly it’s because I am unemployable, like I have maybe the one reference from my supervisor at my previous job, that is it. I worked there like six years so Idk, what am I supposed to do? I do not have skills or anything, that stupid ass cleaning job was sort of it.
But primarily it’s because I’m fuckin busted. The chronic pain (undiagnosed and unexplained pain at the base of the skull + pain in the sternum area, thought to be costochondritis + extreme fatigue and exhaustion all the time) started out five or so years ago as a mild annoyance, but at this point it’s so bad that I can’t even carry a load of laundry down the hall without risk of ending up in pain all day. That’s with tramadol (yes I need different painkillers) too, without I’m borderline nonfunctional, only really capable of walking, and even then only for like 30mins at a time. What job could I even do like this? It has to get fucking solved, and I’ve been bothering my gp about it more. Several of my lengthy absences from work were taken with the hope of fixing this problem though, and years on it hasn’t happened so I am not hopeful.
Basically I’ve been sitting on my ass because the painkillers aren’t really powering my corpse anymore. I can only do this due to Employment Insurance money, no idea how long that’ll last. I told em I’m unable to work due to illness or injury, which at this point is true, I got fired for taking too many breaks in the interest of not completely destroying my body. I want this fixed, it’s getting worse.
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So I haven’t even updated my resume or applied for jobs, for a ton of reasons. Partly it’s because I am unemployable, like I have maybe the one reference from my supervisor at my previous job, that is it. I worked there like six years so Idk, what am I supposed to do?
Have your friends lie about having worked with you. Though I imagine some old coworkers wouldn’t mind doing that as well.
But yea, that’s my only advice, I feel you comrade. I gave up searching for now because of horrible health issues I’m trying to address. Shit’s rough out there.
Huh I’m supposed to have friends?
like I’m meant to know more than 0 people irl that aren’t related to me…?Haha relatable, yeah it is
ty for chiming in!I mean, there’s some folks out there who would do it for you
My partner used to do it for folks on fiver
Would set up fake phone numbers and everything
I have the social skills of a dried slug but I should maybe look into this somehow.
Part of my self-employment is answering the phone for our repair business - I will joyfully lie for you ❤️ DM me, let’s invent a job you had! I will write you a recommendation letter and answer calls and emails checking. That’s one reference, you’ve got your old supervisor, you only need 1-2 more and you’re set.
The job search sucks in every country at the moment, it makes me depressed
Have you looked into food allergies for the chronic fatigue and chronic pain? Some of the weirdest shit can cause that.
Actually yes I had some testing done as a kid; deathly allergic to tree nuts ans mildly to shellfish…
I also have chronic issues I deal with. Keeping a diary of things I eat and activities has definitely helped me cope and reduce substantially to be somewhat normal.
And of course the right med combination… which seems ever changing haha
If you’re in the US have you thought about applying for SSDI? It’s a huge pain in the ass and takes forever, but just from the little you shared it sounds like you might have a shot at getting it. Obviously there are other factors that will help to better predict that, though. If you’re curious about the process whether or not you want to apply I’m kind of an expert on it and am very happy to talk about it. Regardless, I’m so sorry that you’re in so much pain
If I’m not in the US?
I’m maybe gonna apply for disability here in klanada, probably gonna have to if this doesn’t sort.
Also ty
I had an insufferable combo of skull pain and a headache today but thankfully it subsided with ibuprofen and coffee.Ah, I’m not familiar with how benefits work in Canada :/ although I did look it up right now and I think the criteria with which a disability is judged is somewhat similar to how they decide it in the US. But the whole process of figuring out insurance/how to apply/what benefit to apply for is very confusing to me lol. Happy to share what I know about the (likely) criteria for approval though
Yeah it sucks all of that, also have to figure out which benefits disqualify me from spousal sponsorship. I think a barrier to disability will be that I don’t have a proper diagnosis, right?
Not necessarily, but it helps. I think the biggest thing is the amount of medical evidence that you have. For claims here, the biggest deciding factor in your claim are whats in your medical records; they have a book of criteria for many different disabilities and they scan your medical records to see if there is evidence in there that matches the criteria. If you’ve:
- gone to doctors/specialists regularly
- you’ve agreed to treatments that they’ve suggested
- your doctors agree that your disability is severe enough that you are not able to work
- and it’s been recorded in your medical records that treatment has not remedied your ailment, then that is going to help your claim a lot.
They also take into consideration your age, education, and work experience to see if you have transferable skills. You can also list all limitations that affect your ability to work. For example someone with fibromyalgia may also have ADHD, an auditory processing disorder, depression, and memory issues that are not diagnosed. If they feel that all of those things compound to make work difficult, they should be listed.
They also are looking at if you can work any job in the national economy, regardless if the jobs are actually available or not. If you’re relatively young, it is very difficult to get benefits but it can be done. I would think that the criteria in Canada may be less strict than the US; the social security program feels like it’s basically being dismantled and so it’s been even more difficult than it was already for people to get approvals
It may also be worth trying a variety of jobs too; like trying for remote work possibly. if you can’t keep them due to your disability, that’s more evidence for your claim, or best scenario you find something that’s sustainable.
More than anything I hope you can get to the bottom of your issue though :/
I have been to specialists whose tests all say that I am such a fucking healthy and well-living young person :^)
We haven’t really come to any treatment options, because wtf how do you treat “sternum bad and also skull maybe”? I did have a physio referral I didn’t act on because uh, lack of spare time ig. My doc can cover those last two…
I have no skills or education lol! Also my autism is undiagnosed!! Oh man I am so fucking cooked, I guess this really is the end for me after all
Oof I’m sorry if that wasn’t helpful :( there are other things they look at though! You’d likely report to them your daily functioning, such as not being able to lift much, difficulty walking, taking leave from work due to your disability, taking extra breaks and it still etc. Sometimes they do in person examinations as well, at least here, which can make a difference if they can’t quote determine just by your records alone. Also this is all based off of US criteria again and I’ll bet that it would be more lax where you are.
Also, while you’ve only had the one job, you managed to stay there for SIX YEARS! That’s amazing to me, and I think would look good to prospective employers too, you stick around for the long haul. Besides my current job (almost 4 years), I’ve usually only stuck around for 2 years MAX, and I’m in my 30s. Also, it sounds like maybe you just need time right now to rest after doing what I assume was a really physically taxing job for so long, and you aren’t lazy for that. Fuck western hustle culture for real
That’s okay, I appreciate knowing what I’m up against. If daily functioning is a factor I’ll win there, everythingI do hurts near enough :)
Oh you don’t understand, I’m a nepo baby. I flunked the interview badly and only got the job because mommy dearest pulled some strings or rubbed some shoulders. Granted I always got good reviews and most people liked me but Idk. The tenure does look good fwiw. I need a job to live I will stick with it! Autism job hunt is stressful!!!
You’re right about needing time to rest, I was physically busting my ass at that job physically and stressing constantly about getting fired, I’m fucking burnt. I wrote this post partly as self affirmation, lol
