I finally found a job so I am going to move out of my parents’ house soon, in order to live in the large city where the job is located with my gf. I should be happy about finally becoming independent and being able to see her every day, however I only feel dread about the transition, the lack of free time for my interests (probably intensified due to my shit executive functioning) and the fact that I will miss my family. How did you handle such a transition?
I’ll be honest, I’m still tackling it. I struggle with executive disfunction as well as a bit of codependency. I am working very hard to ensure I am making/taking time for my own activities and hobbies while still being present for activities with my wife. For me it’s an ongoing thing, but I’m getting better at it with time and you will too! I don’t know if you have looked into this or not, but therapy has helped me. If nothing else it allows me to sound off about what I’m feeling and gain an unbiased perspective.
Finding the balance is the hardest part and it’s okay if it takes a little effort to find the happy medium.
Either way congrats and good luck!
I don’t know if I am codependent but I have certainly ignored my needs a lot of times because of my anxious attatchment style (which I believe I developed due to being abandoned by friends in adolescence as well as moving out 2 times as a kid) so it’s encouraging to hear you are getting by, thanks