• Stoneykins [any]@mander.xyz
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        8 months ago

        I feel like the incomplete explanation should have been more than you expected in the first place

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          8 months ago

          I get and accept that you may dislike me based on my comments in this thread, I am more confused as to what the lemmy.zip instance has done to dismiss it outright.

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            Because everybody makes the same shitty comments and it’s almost more tiring than anything.

            If you so graciuosly “accept that we may dislike you” why can’t you understand we wouldn’t like people like you especially when it’s always the same tired bullshit from people like you.

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              why can’t you understand we wouldn’t like like people like you especially when it’s always the same tired bullshit from people like you.

              Where did this come from?

              I made one post annoyed about the skin color being complained about, I also noted that I hate the word “mansplaining”, the rest of my comments in this thread have been mostly fine.

              So no, I don’t understand the intense dislike for me here, re read my comments and please see if I am so terrible.

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                Someone is telling you there are issues with your posts, you then went looking at your own posts and saying to yourself “no, the rest of these are fine”

                Do you not see the issue here?

                You didn’t know any of them were not fine in the first place, that’s why you posted them, because you were ignorant about the context and implications

                Not an insult, ignorant means you were unaware. Continuing in ignorance after it’s been pointed out, however…

                That’s some dumbass shit right there

                To reiterate: it is almost unbelievible to me that someone could see this situation and genuinely be clueless as to why it matters that the asshole in the post is an old white man.

                That and the fact that hours later you still seem not to grasp why that stance was treated with such hostility, is why we’re treating you with even more hostility

                Because you’re either a lost cause

                or

                you know exactly what you’re doing and you’re doing it on purpose

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                  8 months ago
                  1. Yes I do believe that most of what I posted here is fine apart from two comments.

                  2. Ignorant is often used as an insult, but I se and concede your point.

                  3. I am annoyed at the post talking about skin color when it wasn’t needed to make the point. I suppose I get pissed off since I am a white man who tries his best and get lumped in with this shit, I remember back ten years ago when femenists talked about ceyibg men and how they were drinking male tears, I webt through a very tough period of time then and cried a lot, and I guess I took and still take it a bit too personal.

                  4. I am fine with a bit of hostillity, but do get extra annoyed when people just assume the worst and come in all guns blazing taking everything I say as being completely terrible and decide I am a horrible person.

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                Take a look at the fucking thread and note the thirty other identical comments all being as intentionally totally stupid and ignorant as you are.

                That where the hostility comes from. You assholes constantly making the same dogshit excuses for having the exact same political beliefs as chuds but still acting morally superior to people who don’t reflexively get offended if somebody dares criticize some old white asshole.

                If you still don’t understand why the smug sanctimonious asshole being an old white dude and is relevant to women’s experience I stem please for the love of God at least shit the fuck up and stop feigning ignorance. It’s really obvious at this point nobody’s going to change your mind because you’re determined to disregard anything that criticizes white hegemony. Just like the chuds you love yo look down on while having the exact same belief system.

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                I made one post annoyed about the skin color being complained about, I also noted that I hate the word “mansplaining”

                nobody needed to see more than this to know you weren’t worth their time

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                  Anyone that easily offended that they won’t even consider asking why is probably not someone I would stand anyway.

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            It happens to be an instance federated with several idealogy-heavy instances, while itself being a general use instance with simple account creation procedures.

            It makes it a popular choice for people who want to make multiple accounts for trolling, as well as people who have unpopular (as far as lemmy goes) ideologies. You can hopefully understand the kind of friction that could create and the reputation is the outcome.

            You probably could have figured this out yourself if you just… Looked around. You shouldn’t expect people who are in disagreement with you to explain everything.

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              Ok, I can sort of see your explanation, but I disagree with you on the fact that other people should not be expected to explain their viewpoints to a person they disagree with.

              Not explaining just leads to bickering, with no one getting any point across.

              But if you explain the other party may gain a better understanding.

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                I know what you mean, but also this type of logic is used to fuck with marginalized people, putting the onus on them to stop and explain to their aggressors why what is being done to them is wrong, why they are valid people, to stop and justify your own existence for one who would doubt it

                I know that’s not what you were doing, but that’s what we deal with constantly, and because others in the thread had already gone into detail about why it matters this guy was white and male, I did not need to explain again

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                  I get that, but I hoped that my way of posting gave me some benefit of the doubt. (:

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                    From my perspective, it actually served to do the opposite. I understand that you’re posting in good faith, but it is, especially at first, indistinguishable from the kinds I was describing

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                8 months ago

                Maybe there is some hypothetical moral ideal on how people should behave in internet disagreements but I’m just trying to get you to be more realistics lmao

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                  I am a realist, which is why I am trying show that I am no troll the only way I can, by trying to have a polite conversation.

                  Though I am starting to get the picture that some people who still are downvoting me would rather see me insulting and crapping sll over the thread, which just reenforce the importance of not doing that.

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                    You are in no way a realist you are actually being a pedantic pain in the ass doing an extreme amount of work to not understand really obviously apparent realities, starting with why you got offended somebody would call out old white assholes and then with the following 20 questions where you’re being intentionally obtuse while acting like you have the moral high ground.

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                    Honestly you aren’t even the worst in this thread but you did kinda open the door to some shit

                    Not that I don’t think you’re dumb as bricks for your “what does skin color have to do with this” comment. You should know damn well what skin color has to do with this

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        They dont have to you assholes wont stop offering up reasons.

        Seriously look at the comments there’s damn near 100% overlap with the people removed about how this is unfair to old white dudes and people with lemmy.something for a username

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            They seem pretty God damn determined to prove they’re exactly as disingenuous and intentionally ignorant as possible.

            Lot of MLKs Whote Moderates in here.

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              Malcolm X’s smiling foxes and snarling wolves; Northern and Southern dog sitting side by side like the kissing-cousins they are.

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              Yeah, any of them still confused shout take a step back, read over the thread again and reflect, it’s all there if they stop and think about it, hopefully at least one will, but the rest will continue to be very funny

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                Yup instead they just keep insisting they don’t mind being wrong they just don’t understand what everybody’s problem with them is while another 20 people scream as loudly and clearly as they can why they have problems with them.

                Good reminder there’s no point hoping for good faith discussion with liberals because their idea of good faith is pretending to be polite while refusing to even acknowledge anything anybody has said to them.

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          lol. There is no point in bickering further now that you have started with the insults and ascribed me views that I do not hold, I am not the terrible person you think of, and I will not stoop down to your level and fling insults at you.

          So instead I am just going to wish you a pleasant weekend and hope you realize that not everything is as you believe it to be, much less so on the internet.

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            There never was any fucking point I really dont know why I even bother waste my fucking time trying to talk to you dumbshit liberals who are more concerned with tone policing than acknowledging that racism and sexism exist.

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              Wow, this is hillarious!

              You honestly seem to think you know me and my political views from a throwaway comment that I made just after getting up in the morning.