She means the world to me, I just want her to be happy. I don’t know if she’ll realize they’re from me.

Edit: okay, I let her know it was me

Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn’t and that’s why I did it anonymously.

I don’t want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.

I wish I didn’t feel this way.

Update: we’re not friends anymore

  • klemptor@startrek.website
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    9 months ago

    I think you had good intentions but the flowers probably made her feel uncomfortable. As a woman, receiving flowers from a guy who knows I don’t reciprocate his feelings would not make me happy. It puts the woman in a bad spot. If she says thank-you to be polite, it can be misinterpreted as encouragement. And if she reminds him that she’s not interested, she’s a removed. Either way it’s unwanted pressure because a man giving flowers to a woman is always going to be interpreted as a romantic gesture, which she clearly doesn’t want.

    • blujan@sopuli.xyzOP
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      9 months ago

      No, I get it, makes sense, didn’t even want her to know but shouldn’t have sent her anything at all