I just wanted to find some people to talk to about ADHD, but didn’t see anything here. Hoping I can see what other folks on Lemmy are focusing/not focusing on.

I’m a 33 year old who was diagnosed 2 years ago, and when I talked to my dad about it, he just said, “well yeah, you’ve always been a little…Insert vague hand wave here” I’m currently taking straterra because the psychiatrist asked me if I wanted to do scheduled or unscheduled, and the scheduled stuff scares me a bit.

I often wonder if it’s working, because attention is such a subtle thing. I am getting better at remembering things I need to do and mustering the initial momentum to get started on small tasks. I am also becoming painfully aware of how my brain is working differently than other people’s but I’ve been badly masking so long that I don’t know how to reconcile the differences.

Anyways, I love talking to people face to face (probably to absorb all of their social cues apparently?), so I’ve never figured out how to connect to people online. As a card carrying millennial, I want to figure out how to fix that.

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    10 months ago

    Greetings fellow millennial, I got the one two punch of ADHD and Autism so I get the confusion when you realize that your brain is the odd one out and not everyone analyses and mimics others body language and social cues to figure out the “right answer” to any given conversation.

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      10 months ago

      It always felt weird that I was so bad at social media, despite liking talking to people. It feels good to finally have convos with Internet strangers instead of just reading them, haha.

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        10 months ago

        I get that, I spent the better part of an hour trying to parse a badly written bumper sticker about their mullet being smarter than your honor role student, because my brain hyper-focused and combined with my literalism I was sure I was missing some key context that made it “funny”. So yeah, the written word without enough context can be hard to understand for neurodivergent individuals.

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      10 months ago

      I had a rough day because I was passed up for a raise due to having inconsistent paperwork (focusing on repetitive tasks is kinda a weak spot of mine) despite being good at my performance as a service technician. How about you?

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        Thats a rough time. I recently lost a much better position for a similar reason. The actual work was always accurate with documentation on point but keeping up with emails, meetings, office politics, and yaddayadda is always a chore.

        Fun times. At least my last few days have been pretty chill, taking a breather and “resting”. How are the kids going?