• Silverseren@kbin.social
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    10 months ago

    It’s really sad the way he was treated and extra aggravating that the bigoted side of the men’s rights movement has tried to take advantage of his death for themselves rather than to actually progress anything involving men’s rights issues.

    On that note, I’m going to go ahead and remove the quote sentence from the bigoted and extremely misogynistic A Voice For Men publication in the Legacy section. It’s not even referenced anyways.

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      10 months ago

      I’d just like to make the note that the men’s liberation movement is the exact opposite of the men’s rights movement, despite the two sounding similar.

      The men’s lib movement was founded specifically as being complementary to women’s lib and uses many of the same approaches and intellectual analyses. It explicitly rejects the MRA/red pill narratives while still trying to figure out masculine toxicity and honor cultures, as well as trying to elevate the idea that too few men seek or are able to receive the care they deserve. It’s very much against the patriarchy.

      Unfortunately, like many communities on lemmy, it’s less active here than it was on Reddit, but it’s worth using the term as a search of nothing else.

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        10 months ago

        The Reddit Mens Lib group are atrocious. They in no way accept that men are not fully to blame for whatever rubbish that radical feminists come up with.

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          The men’s lib group here on Lemmy is just as pathetic. Read any of their posts and they do not sound like men, but instead like a beaten down, passive group of people that cannot stand up for themselves.

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            10 months ago

            they do not sound like men

            Ah I see. So, what are men supposed to sound like?! That misandry, right there.

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              10 months ago

              Clearly like your average Facebook comment section under some inflammatory post. That’s how real men™ sound like.

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          Yes, exactly what this guy is saying is true. This is the kind of person whose presence is unwelcome in the men’s lib movement. This is the kind of crap up with which we shall not put, which is why I feel comfortable recommending it to people.

          So, buddy, let me be clear. The harms we see and talk about and try to deal with are inflicted by toxic masculinity. It has nothing to do with “radical feminism” and I honestly have no idea what that means to you. I’ve heard the term used for everyone ranging from women who point out and fight against rape culture to women with purple hair. But, yeah, if you’re the kind of man who complains about radical feminism, especially when the discussion is centering around issues affecting men including everything from education to economics to the culture of violence and racism… well, your input is probably going to be disregarded.

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            10 months ago

            So you’re saying people critical to the Men’s Lib movement aren’t welcome in the Men’s Lib movement?

            That tells me everything I need to know about it’s “intellectual methods”.

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              I think you mean “critical of” and not “critical to.”

              And while there is welcomed and active debate in the community on our approaches and domains of concern, people who are actively hostile and unwilling to engage in a well-intended discussion are not welcome, in the same way that homophobes aren’t welcome in the LGBT community and far-right types aren’t welcome in socialist communities. We don’t want racists in spaces for Black persons, and we don’t want to engage with transphobes in trans spaces.

              In men’s lib, we study the semantics and semiotics of masculinity both in specific cultures and how the ideas developed over time. We study sex, sexuality, and gender. Most importantly, we try to understand these things as they impact the communities we live in. While most people would be happy to discuss any of those issues, someone coming in from a “feminism bad” perspective is not going to be interested in discussion. They have a lot of learning to do before they’re ready, and they’re usually more interested in arguing than learning.

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      10 months ago

      extra aggravating that the bigoted side of the men’s rights movement has tried to take advantage of his death for themselves rather than to actually progress anything involving men’s rights issues

      This seems quite inflammatory. Is it true? Where have you seen this happening? Can you please link to where you see this happening, so I know what you’re referring to?