I’ve had to have several conversations with my wife about her not using a bad mental autofill.
So much of the time (especially with important conversations), she’s already decided what I’m saying within the first few words (of an entire conversation) and then the conversation gets way too long because it is very clear she’s not getting what I’m saying because she’s locked into her autofill. She’s gotten better over time, but man is it frustrating.
Yeah i have this problem with my partner. I say something innocuous, he creates a whole cinematic universe about what I meant with the sentence and refuses to adjust once I explain that he misunderstood. It’s absolutely tiring.
I think I might be doing this with my mom. In my defense, she has earned this mental model I have of her. I’ve given her the benefit of the doubt enough times and got burned by it.
I’ve had to have several conversations with my wife about her not using a bad mental autofill.
So much of the time (especially with important conversations), she’s already decided what I’m saying within the first few words (of an entire conversation) and then the conversation gets way too long because it is very clear she’s not getting what I’m saying because she’s locked into her autofill. She’s gotten better over time, but man is it frustrating.
Holy cow, you are also married to my wife!?! She’s got some splainin to do.
Usually in this community we only allow “me too” and “neurotypicals are so annoying”.
It’s refreshing for someone to come and call this out like that. I’m surprised you’re not downvoted to hell.
Yeah i have this problem with my partner. I say something innocuous, he creates a whole cinematic universe about what I meant with the sentence and refuses to adjust once I explain that he misunderstood. It’s absolutely tiring.
I think I might be doing this with my mom. In my defense, she has earned this mental model I have of her. I’ve given her the benefit of the doubt enough times and got burned by it.
You need to start getting to the point faster.