Most people are alone these days and while capitalist society is very much to blame for this, we should also look at who we reject and why. Do we refuse to spend time with someone because they can’t drive themselves anywhere, or maybe because they are not the perfect person we want them to be? Do we refuse any romantic partners for reasons that are relatively trivial such as their hair or maybe a dislike of tattoos or glasses? While these are all valid reasons and you cannot force yourself to like someone or want to spend time with them, you should still have some people in your life that you talk to and are able to interact with. Rejection of every possible friend, romantic interest or others could possibly indicate that you have issues with being overly picky, emotionally unavailable, or you want people to live up to imagined ideas.

There are valid reasons to cut someone out of your life such as being exploitative of you through excessive favors that never get repaid or maybe the man you’re seeing already has a wife. Other reasons like a person being unpleasant or disrespectful are valid reasons to stop seeing someone even if you can’t necessarily blame them. However, if you look back and see that you’re rejecting people or missing out on a lot of social connections, you may want to think about why you tend to do that.

I don’t want to give people the opposite problem either of clinging to toxic people or keeping people around that do not improve your mood and/or vibrations. You bring people into your life who improve your mood, you want to be around, or who help you in some way. Someone coming to be malicious or who ends up bringing you problems and things, they are worse than loneliness.