I’m not sure if I should mark this as ‘NSFW’ even though I don’t like that term and don’t think it’s really necessary, just wondering in general without any specifics, I have anyway, just in case.
I have looked around Lemmy and mostly found subpar ‘BDSM Communities’ that aren’t imo the best (because they seem to have a very specific idea of what BDSM is) and BDSM only covers one aspect of kink anyway.
So I was wondering if there were any well moderated more encompassing communities out there, and if not what would be the best way of creating one besides running my own instance (which I do not have the money nor skills to do)?
Out of curiosity, what is a kink community exactly? What do you do there? Just talk about it?
Well, what I imagined was a community where we could talk about various kinks, consent, boundaries, good and bad ideas, discuss things and perhaps share media that the posters have made i.e. no media of scenes etc that weren’t made by the posters and all people involved in the scene etc have to consent, for example.
It would have fair but explicit rules about what kind of things could be talked about and posted (like mentioned above).
Too many communities around BDSM (using that term here because it’s what they often use) online seem to be full of really dreadful ideas or seem to focus only on specific types of bodies and it’s unclear about whether consent was given sometimes to post such things there.
I’d love to see a vibrant community where really caring about consent, safety etc is the expectation and it wasn’t just focused on the mainstream idea of kink or certain body types always doing the more ‘extreme’ stuff. I have some that are like that but some are just happy, flowery little kinks and I don’t see enough of those talked about in those spaces often.