Ugh, feel this so hard recently - the most expensive, most thinly stretched health care system in the developed world. I pay through the teeth for this shit and nothing is ever covered, out of pocket costs are still insane, even for injuries. Now we get yearly out of pocket deductibles you must meet before they start covering things - literally designed to discourage you from getting care so they can collect premiums and provide as little as possible.

My provider recently changed it so that my yearly checkup isn’t with my MD primary care physician, they hire a staff of PAs who handle checkups now which I’m sure is much cheaper and guarantees nobody pays a fuckin second off attention to long term care.

Fuck this for-profit bullshit, so frustrating to have to battle with base unadulterated greed when trying to get basic preventive care to make sure we don’t die early from something stupid.

I’ve asked for help finding API endpoints that do what I want because I’m feeling too lazy to pour over docs and it’ll just invent endpoints that don’t exist

Now I’m on the toilet at work and I feel like going to sleep

They’re revving their 4-bangers and it’s turning me on now?!

Sometimes when I’m holding a knife I’ll mildly threaten my cat

“Gimme all ya cash! Paws where I can see ‘em!”

The struggle is real haha

That’s a good point and- ooh look a butterfly!

!lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Blahaj is very much a queer friendly instance. Mostly trans folk, but imho you will get a good response there.

Also, feel free to DM me if you want. I went through a lot of therapy to be okay with my sexuality, happy to discuss whatever privately if you would like :)

Edit: Cuz you seen to be asexual, perhaps !asexual@lemmy.world ? <1k subs unfortunately so maybe a bit dead, but worth a shot.

Just make sure you’re not combative on blahaj, the mods are very protective in a mama bear sort of way. 🥾

Science abhors a vacuum but it fucking loves a crab

Yeah the Netherlands has basically a dedicated bicycle infrastructure meant for pedal cycles. There is a whole bunch of context for this story that is easy to miss if you don’t live there.

It’s not about cars vs e-bikes - it’s about not being allowed to bring an ultra powered bike that’s unsafe for other riders. It’s more akin to how your car has to follow regulations to be allowed on the road.

That shit about noise is just old people being old people. It’s the potential safety issues that got these bikes held up in customs.

It’s the cirrrrrcle of liiiiiiifeee~

How long before this one turns racist? Oh wait that was M$

Their onions are often rotten inside despite the outside looking fine. There’s a local Korean market near stocks local produce as well and it’s always way better. Kroger has reached the “line must go up” enshittification point, it seems.

I can stand on one foot and tie my shoe in the air

I taught myself to balance on one foot by brushing by teeth on one foot for a few months lol

I mean… there can be…

Make sure you know what it costs to get your truck inspected by the health inspector and what it takes to get yourself licensed to serve out of it - it can add to your startup costs quite a bit. Research your local laws as well, some cities have some pretty hostile laws/regs for food trucks. If you want you go a county over, you’ll likely need new licensing and more $$$.

Also, no offense meant but if you don’t have at least a few years of experience in a legit commercial / restaurant kitchen, you need that first IMHO. Cooking consistently at the scale that restaurants require is legitimately hard and is a skill that needs honing. Best to do that on a business’s dime.

Bean memes are the most compelling use for gen AI I’ve come across so far

Beaver bomb sounds like a sex toy

Ayo. Fellow pan/demi cis guy dating an MTF person for about a year now, I’ll share the lessons I’ve learned so far while trying to figure out the exact same balance with my partner.

The biggest piece of advice I can give is - If it’s transition related she probably knows more than you. Even if she doesn’t, my recommendation is to be weary of accidentally man-splaining shit to her. I annoyed my partner more than once because I found a thing I didn’t know was an option and was excitedly “explaining” (not on purpose, but still) a thing she has known about and formed opinions about for years already.

I can’t know this for sure but I’d wager your partner has heard of both the surgeries you’ve mentioned and knows the pros/cons. Might be wrong, but worth pondering for a moment imho.

I learned to start such conversations with “hey, do you know about xyz thing - i read about it and it seems interesting.” and then the most important part - shut the fuck up and listen. She probably has opinions and you should value them more than yours.

I find my best helpful stride by observing what she’s working on, then picking up on the things that make her uncomfortable or seem to block her path and offering to help with those. I try very hard to never suggest any path, and when I do express an opinion or suggestion I try to explicitly tie it back to a desire she’s expressed to me previously. “You said you wanted X, i was thinking it might be helpful if I did Y part for you?”

Example - she’s high anxiety about going into a makeup store but wants to learn and play with some makeup. So marched my big dumb ape self into several Sephoras and stuck my big dumb face in front of several beauticians and told them that my gf is trans and asked for advice and showed them photos and carefully watched how they reacted until one went awwwww and started being super helpful. I got her card to offer to pay for a makeup lesson.

You know what? She’s still too nervous to go, but now we know the name of a person we know is going to be happy to help her. She feels supported because the thing I did was the result of listening and noticing what was blocking her, which imho is more important than the outcome.

I guess my goal has evolved from trying to find tangible things to help with to trying to do things that make her feel empowered. Transitioning is not an easy thing, there’s a chilling effect on progress because the world seems aligned against our community. If you can make her feel like she has an ally in that fight she’ll accelerate naturally.

It’s normal to be excited and want to help, my advice would be to grab that feeling and wrangle it.

Does she already have a blahaj? If not, highly recommended as a gift idea. ;)

Change your nozzle randomly and without warning