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Interesting. I have never tried to do such long ferments with milk breads. I have to try that out. Thanks for the tip!
I am a big fan of sourdough breads with milk, but from my own personal experience you have to be flexible with the hydration. Milk breads tend to be more dense and can be very hard to knead. Usually I up the hydration even further than the recipe suggests: When my usual breads tend to have a ~70% hydration, I often go up to ~80% when working with milk.
I’d like to change my gender now.
Obligatory “Only you can decide who you are and who you want to be.”
The trans community is usually very cautious not to tell other people who and what they are, because that’s the negative experience that most of us made: Other people told us who we are and/or who were supposed to be (assigned gender and all that) and it went badly for most of us.
For me personally, I also lacked the language to express my gender feelings when I was young. I was a precocious, sensitive kid that had more female friends than boys usually had. Yet I did not reflect on my gender very much.
Only during puberty did I realize that something was off. I realized that I did not want to grow up to be a man and desired more than anything to be female. Yet I also lacked the language to express myself. I grew up in a small city with no visible queer scene, so I did not really know how to express myself and ultimately surrendered to grow up as everyone expected me to.
But it never felt right. “Maleness” was like clothes that did not fit me, no matter how hard I tried. I often felt like a “fake man” and that I had to perform maleness as much as possible, because people expected it from me and I was not good enough at it.
Meanwhile my desire to be female also never went away. Looking back I now understand that this was gender envy, but in the moment I experienced it as a constant yearning that pulled on me and while it got weaker from time to time, it never fully went away.
My only outlet were games and virtual spaces wherein I usually played female characters. The easiest way for me to lose interest in a game was if it forced me to play as a man.
My egg finally cracked when I realized that my gender envy encompassed trans women too: Why could they have a transition while I did not? Why could they take estrogen while I could not? Why could they wear female clothes, etc. These kind of thoughts ultimately led me to realize that I am trans myself, because I wanted to change my gender so much and I was the only one who could make that happen.
Ultimately my transition was not only an embrace of my own femaleness, but also a rejection of maleness.
It’s a very strange coincidence that these are the subreddits that are suddenly experiencing a “bug”.
No. They are all precious and I do not want them to hurt each other.
Chanel No.5 suffers from the problem that it was originally made over 100 years ago. While the scent of No.5 did not change much, lots and lots and lots of products that came later imitated the scent of the (at the time) prestigious No.5. So it’s not necessarily a case of “No.5 smells like soap”, rather than “soaps smell like No.5”. And No.5 can’t escape the position it founds itself in without becoming something else entirely.
Dammit! I did not notice. I am taking it down now.
Besides the jokes, one of the physiological reasons is HRT. Persons on HRT are going through a second puberty which is quite a strain for the body. FtM people on HRT have the advantage that higher levels of testosterone can counter fatigue. MtF people on HRT on the other hand will have a much lower level of testosterone than before HRT, while also feeling the physical strain of their second puberty.
Trans women and low self-esteem, name a more iconic duo!
Thank you, friend! You have beautiful mind!
If you want to blame anything for Kurt Cobain’s death, blame the depression he struggled with. It is the tragic truth of this particular mental illness that it can kill people while their loved ones are powerless to do anything about it. It is very, very hard for family and friends of people with depression to watch how their loved ones suffer and it is cruel to blame them for failing where even the best health care professionals are at the limit of what they can do.
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Meanwhile trans mascs are out and about in a t-shirt and shorts. Enjoy the T, friends!
This is a very lukewarm defense, but this subject is something of a trope that shows up in various artists’ works. On the top of my head, I can say that it is a subject in a short story by Yoshihiro Tatsumi, as well as in Osamu Tezuka’s “Ayako”, both published way before Gaiman’s “Sandman” story. So I personally do not attribute too much importance to his story. His actions speak for themselves.
Strange. It worked previously, but I changed the link now and hopefully it works.
Thank you, I wish you the same.
Congratulations! It is great that you feel more confident and euphoric by making such a discovery about yourself.
I do not want to diminish your joy, but keep one thing in mind: You are in for a marathon, no matter how much it may feel like a sprint right now. You have time to figure things out: What suits you best, what you want to do in regards to your appearance and your presentation and which steps to take next, etc.
Some things unfortunately take time, but that is also why it is important to not pressure yourself too much. You do not need to have all the answers right away.
One example is HRT: While the start of HRT is a big moment in the lives of most trans people, HRT is a slow process overall. Just finding the right dosage for yourself may take months and depending on various factors (genetic, age,…) visible changes may take a long time to manifest.
So, take the time you and your wife need to adapt. You can figure things out along the way.
In regards to the trans haircutter: As you do not seem to know that person, perhaps do not ask about her personal journey right away. It may come of as intrusive. If she offers such information on her own, sure, go for it.
But my advise would be to ask her about local resources. Most cities of a certain size have a trans/LGBT+ support network of some kind or other, something the haircutter may be a part of and/or may have taken advantage of herself.
Such networks are very useful to know about because its members can tell you about the right doctors which are familiar with HRT (not every doctor can be trusted with it unfortunately), other trans friendly health care providers, queer friendly businesses, various safe spaces, meetups and more.
But despite my reservations, please do not feel discouraged! Be assured, I am glad that you already feel more like yourself and I wish you all the best on your journey! 🍀