• Capt. Wolf@lemmy.world
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    The number of clients I get who are clearly struggling with the burden of “what a man is and isn’t” would astound you… Hint: It’s a lot!

    No, boys aren’t OK…

    Just be you, friends!

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      Getting constantly punished for being “weak” and showing emotions kinda does create problems it appears. Apparently it’s not very healthy to ignore emotions and pretend to be stronger than you are. It took quite a while to get over that.

      There’s so much wrong with the expectations on men set by media and by society. Change is happening, but there are plenty of people who seem to want to keep things this way. Grown up men who still perpetuate all this bullshit, constantly kicking down on any minority group or anyone who stands out just to look tough.

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    Men struggle too. It was dumb to assume otherwise, but that’s what was done.

    Man up, sit down Chin up, pipe down Socks up, don’t cry Drink up, don’t whine “Grow some balls,” he said “Grow some balls”

    The mask of masculinity Is a mask A mask that’s wearing me

    – “Samaritans” by IDLES

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    Hey, imagine growing up in an environment that deliberately stunts your emotional development since early childhood, encourages you to hide your feelings or mask them with anger, ties your essential worth as a person to your utility, neglects and ghosts you as punishment for transgressions, models all relationships either as transactions or conquests, and constantly flirts with an idea to kill you in the name of some belief, policy, dogma or tradition. All that with ZERO PEER SUPPORT, and zero solidarity amongst your gender.

    Identifying with a banished Greek god of War sometimes helps me trough the day. If he can transcend a moldy curse of war-mongering masculinity to focus on those he loves, so can I. I expect no judgement.

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      im so glad i found some like minded people online that shaped me to not hide emotions like others do

      I also find gals to be soooooo much more considerate to talk with, rather than guys who from my experience for the most part just care about short-term mindless fun and avoidance/coping

  • Trainguyrom@reddthat.com
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    I’m remembering the meme about the girl destroying her cheating now-ex boyfriend by pointing out that “Goku would be so disappointed in you”