I’m (prob) a cis male.
I was unsure about my gender. Male gender (where i live) is big on like liberatarian principles (ex toxic masculinity) and i don’t have the same real aspirations of like being a big ceo and, working out a lot, hordes of hook ups etc. What also added to my confusion was, when talking to some people about the fact that i experience emotional pain and getting called a nicer versions of pussy.
I think i’m cis male who doesnt have (some?) typical masculinity goals.
Figure someone might be interested in this story.
I guess I’ve just never really felt that much confusion. I’m a man and I don’t have anything to prove to anyone. I suppose it really has a lot to do with the pressures around you. My parents never really pushed me to be any particular way, nor did my friend group. I’m also gay, so there’s a lot more tolerance of non-conformity (although plenty of gay men are of the “no femmes” variety).
I might also be affected by social pressure worse than you
Yeah modern masculinity is a mess. It’s very narrow and most traits aren’t even that desirable… I feel the same as you.
