A little in my twenties. It turned out that I just wanted to try out sex with women and once I did it that was pretty much it.

I never really questioned my sexuality, but I did have an experience that somewhat confirmed it for me.

I’ve had a fairly open relationship with my wife and we’ve brought people in for various reasons, and I had the opportunity to have a devil’s threesome with my (at the time) brother from another mother, and during a lul when my wife had to use the bathroom, we kept the mood going ourselves. Found out that I’m definitely not (physically) into AMABs, and they (eventually) found out they were trans. I still love the hell out of her even if I don’t talk to her nearly as much as I’d like (damn life always life-ing), and I have a couple non-sexual semi-ronantic relationships with AMABs in my life, and one of my partners is a (semi-transitioned) trans-man.

All that to say, you never know if you don’t try. And if you feel that the person is safe/trustworthy/receptive enough, it can’t hurt to test the waters and see. You may find out that you’re bi, demi or pan. And you might just have your cis-het confirmed as well. But you’ll never know unless you’re willing to make that step.

I saw gay porn once and was immediately sure that I’m hetero. That’s definitely not the flavor for me. If how I felt is how gay people feel when they see hetero sex in movies, then you guys have my condolences. Yuck!

Its like a math question. You need to show your working, even if you guess the right answer, or you don’t get full marks for it.

Btw, questioning things is usually a healthy thing to do. And sexually or attraction is complex. For some people it’s also (or more) about personality and less about body features. Or it’s multiple factors. You can be attracted to more than one gender. It’s a wide bandwidth. And there’s a lot of different things out there. You do you.

Yep, have been doing so for a few years now. I’m happily married to a woman so it’s somewhat irrelevant what my feelings towards men and NB people are.

But fi you’re single and the guy is open to dating give it a shot.

In the teenage boy caught in the hyper masculine world of American highschool? Yes.

In the actualized adult trying to understand myself and the world? Also yes.

I was curious, so my friend who bi let me go down on him. It was not my thing lol. Cunilingus, however 🤤

I think anybody who says they haven’t questioned their sexuality is likely to be lying. Then again, we’re all biased by our lived experiences and I’ve spent a lot of time questioning things, so I could be projecting.

At the end of the day I want to say to like who you like. What happens between consenting adults is nobody’s business but theirs, and the sun isn’t going to implode because you dig on a girly dude.

Hell, you don’t even need to put a label on your sexuality. Or your gender for that matter, although that’s a whole different can of worms.

Depending on where you are, you might be growing up alongside harmful anti-queer rhetoric. That kind of thing makes it very difficult for a lot of people to admit their sexuality with any degree of nuance. People living in fear will lie to their friends, family, and selves in order to hide their attractions. It’s sad and harmful, and it also makes it difficult for some people to be open about sometimes liking a person that is outside what they believe society expects of them.

You guys should get coffee or something. I wouldn’t pass up on a chance to learn more about myself

I tend to find myself attracted to kind, not aggressive men. I don’t think of them as feminine men. They can be quite masculine and still kind and not aggressive.

I was a feminine man, now I’m a trans woman. I still mostly find women attractive, because men tend to be socialized to be aggressive and I don’t like aggressive energy.

One of these kind, non-aggressive men, the first man I was ever attracted to, is still a dear friend of mine and dating a trans woman himself now. I believe our deep love for each other is something that helped us both to accept ourselves. Even though we’ve never been romantically involved with each other.

Only when my wife gets out her strap-on.

Yea, and basically the same circumstances as you. It’s happened a couple times over my life and I don’t know why. I suspect it’s like what your friends said and my brain picked up on something it interpreted as feminine or I was mistaking some other feeling for attraction. The feeling was never strong enough to actually pursue anything so I didn’t really dwell on it.

Yeah, I did for a long time in my late teens. I thought I was attracted to girls because that was the ‘default’. But the second dating a guy became an option, I realised that the thought of it made me way more excited. I was totally in denial before that too - like I’d look at fetish porn with male actors and think ‘oh I’m just interested in this fetish, the gender isn’t important here’. Nope, I like guys.

I’d say that I’m more attracted to feminine looking guys. I guess if you’re interested in exploring these feelings there’s no harm in asking this guy how they feel and see where things go.

No, but I’ve questioned why I’m still virgin and never dated.

Always remember that sexuality is not “I was born this way” sexuality changes throughout everyone’s life. Just like ones gender.

It’s a spectrum of many things and many ways from no sexual feelings to all sexual feelings towards any or no genders.

There is no binary there is no definite answer. It’s whatever you feel. And that’s completely ok.