Have the discussion here and not in dustbunnies post.

  • dustbunnies [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    14 hours ago

    deeply grateful for your attempt to remove the struggle session from my replies ❤️😭

    you are literally trying to fall on a sword for me here, and it is incredibly kind of you and so much more than I deserve

    thank you for being such a gigantic sweetie pie. idk what I can ever do to repay your kindness, but please know that I will never forget this and never stop trying to make it up to you.

    • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      14 hours ago

      I’m not wading into some 100+ comments thread, so I’ll comment here instead:

      1. A lot of this is because we are on some shitty Reddit clone that doesn’t have a read button. I pretty much just used the upvote button as a read button on Reddit. It’s something that I had to unlearn on here.

      2. People are going to accidentally upvote stuff they shouldn’t have upvoted, especially when they’re on their phone. I know on Twitter, some people would just block you because you accidentally liked something they don’t like. This is why I use an alt when browsing Hexbear on my phone. I don’t want to be put in a situation where I get banned because my fingers accidentally upvoted something that I shouldn’t have upvoted.

      3. I’m glad you’re still around. I was worried the dunk tank drama had chased you off the site.

    • SadArtemis [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      13 hours ago

      Can’t speak for anyone who might have taken it the wrong way (your upvotes, though who among us hasn’t done similar once…?) but I have infinite love and respect for comrades who better themselves, let alone fess up publicly to it which must be a hell of a thing and I don’t think anyone was even asking for.

      Maybe some might not be cool with it (no one’s spoken up as such yet I think?) but as a broader space and community in general I think this is an important and wonderful thing (where it can be afforded- and in the circumstances it certainly could be far, far more than afforded IMO). We all have to start somewhere (as someone who was raised pretty much a chud, who has fucked up really badly before and learnt better, etc etc…).

      cat-trans

      • Sulvor [he/him, undecided]@hexbear.net
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        12 hours ago

        Big agree.

        When something like that comment gets 17 upvotes, some people expect the mods to address it in a bigger way than simple removal.

        I think messaging each user would’ve been ideal, but a 24 hour ban is a slap on the wrist and I don’t think anybody holds it against otherwise non-reactionary users.