A one-off, or on occasion is fine; but having to constantly reassure someone that they aren’t the cause of every single frustration you encounter gets extremely exhausting.
Repetition of needing to correct someone else’s assumptions about my personal feelings is so frustrating.
Energy vampires
My mother. She made some bandanas for our dog, and gave them to us a week or so ago. We thought they were cool. Later, she said, “Sorry you didn’t like the bandanas.” I was like, “News to me, I thought they were great.” “Well, they weren’t what <my wife> was expecting.”
I didn’t even bother mentioning it to my wife until yesterday, who, of course, was fine with the bandanas, as I knew she would be. During that conversation, my wife and I talked about how we need to constantly walk on eggshells around her, because who knows what she’ll be upset about next. It’s exhausting.
I don’t know where my mother gets this stuff. The sad part is that this is actually one of the more sane incidents.
It’s emotional abuse.
You say that, but there’s a flip side to this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship where my SO was always a hair trigger away from a full on apeshit moment. You find yourself (regardless of your confidence) wondering if you’ve annoyed them and after a while, you flinch at any shift in tone of voice. It can be a sign of abuse, but not just in the way you mention.
This meme is relatable but what you said is absolutely true. I’ve been at the barrel end of this psychological abuse. Of course, she was physically abusive too.
It doesn’t matter if the behavior is the result of past trauma. Taking that trauma out on your partner by treating them like they’re an abusive person is abusive.
The behavior being understandable doesn’t make it alright.
Hypersensitivity to others is a removed
The opposite is worse… to others:-).
Is it really being hypersensitive when it is wrong?
Ignoring the fact that your partner loves you isn’t sensitivity.
Is this contextual based on the comic? I’m not familiar with the comic strip
This can get complicated when you know that the “No” can actually mean “Yes, but I don’t want to get annoyed any further”.
“I’m not.”
“Oh, god, I bet they’re mad that I thought they’d be mad at me for asking!”
May as well just say “only when you ask me that” and get to where you were going eventually anyways.
Me every other time I meet up with a friend
Honestly, comics like this are eye opening to me as I never would have imagined feeling this way.
Better ask them
That’s not funny
