It’s good to reflect sometimes.
I myself am feeling a bit dull lately. I’m working so hard at both my place of work and for the party that I forget that life has more to offer than communist propaganda spreading lol. I need to go out and touch grass more often. Today, for example, started at 6 and ended at 23 after cleaning, working, cooking and having a meeting with the party. Currently decompressing with wine and Harry Styles.
How about you guys?
It sounds like you’re on the right path to accepting yourself.
I am not a psychologist or any other type of health professional. So this is not professional advice. Still, I think I have helped others to see themselves positively, so this might be useful for you. It can go two ways.
(1) If I’m there in person, I’ll ask them about themselves and make notes about all their characteristics, traits, etc. (This would be too personal for us to do online and I don’t want you to dox yourself.) Then I will go through this list, make it abstract, and talk through it. For example, they might at one point say, ‘I helped so and so with her work.’ I’ll talk in the abstract about helping others and get the other person to think about what it means to help others, etc. Then I’ll make the connection explicitly and say, ‘you said that being a good person means helping others, etc [include details of what they told me about the abstract idea], and look, you did this today and last week; therefore as a matter of fact, you are a nice person, regardless of what I think, so you don’t have to take my word for it.’
(2) If I can’t be there in person, I’ll suggest doing it the other way. Make a list describing the characteristics of a good person who should be proud of and pleased with themselves. Then consider whether you do anything that fits into the described categories. Then you have written evidence that you are a good person, regardless of whether other people are just saying things to be nice (which they probably aren’t; because people only tend to say things to be nice to make people who are genuinely nice feel better).
It can also be useful to do this with ‘bad’ characteristics, too. Because if there are things that you dislike about your actions, which you would like to change, then direct reflection will help you to act differently. I know that I can be quite blunt sometimes. I reflect on this and try to be less blunt (to little avail so far, but we’re all works in progress).
In the meantime, you might find this amusing: https://web.archive.org/web/20130131005649/http://isnt.autistics.org/ and this: https://web.archive.org/web/20130121084304/http://isnt.autistics.org/dsn.html
Edit: typo